It’s time to change your demeanor!

The desire to change one's personality is common. We all have a long list of behaviors we'd like to begin (or end) that seem impossible to accomplish, including quitting smoking, eating healthier, exercising regularly, and getting organized. There is a widespread belief that our underlying personality patterns are resistant to change, not capable of being changed.

Sigmund Freud, an Austrian psychoanalyst, proposed that character was largely formed by the age of five. Many modern psychologists agree that one's overall personality stays pretty fixed and stable throughout one's life. Generally speaking, many experts agree that it is exceedingly difficult to make true changes to broad personality traits. Therefore, if you are dissatisfied with some aspects of your personality, is there anything you can do to change them?


There's something unique about the way you think, feel, and act: It's your habits, your quirks, and the way you react to the things around you. Even if your moods change as you age and you take on new responsibilities, there's still something uniquely you. Here are a few ways you need to follow to change your demeanor.

  • Shape New Habits
    Psychologists have discovered that people with positive personality characteristics have evolved patterns of thought that have remained with them.
    Since habits can be learned, changing your behavioral responses over time is one method of bringing about personality change. Of course, developing a new habit or trying to break an old one is never easy, and it takes time and dedication. With enough practice, these new behavioral patterns will become second nature.
  • Create a network of support
    Creating groups around a process is an effective way of getting people to change their behavior. We are profoundly social creatures, and conversation is, of course, a two-way street. Others are constantly shaping your own behavior! To truly understand how to assist people in changing, consider how others attempt to influence your behavior
  • Meditation with acknowledgment
    The truly surprising aspect of discovery is that mindfulness made people willing to act righteously. We already knew that meditation improves a person's physical and psychological well-being, but now there are indications that it also increases compassionate behavioral patterns.
  • Read more
    Reading is beneficial to your brain. Even as you read a sentence, your brain is encoding each word and instantaneously recalling the meaning. Aside from the mechanics, reading allows you to visualize the subject matter on the pages in front of you and imagine what the voices in the written dialogue sound like.
    Reading is a fantastic activity because it stimulates the imagination and stimulates so many various portions of the brain. There are an infinite number of genres and forms of reading material to help you out in behavioral change patterns.

A how-to guide for behavior change

Changing attitudes is a difficult process. Rather than running for perfection, ensure that you set yourself up for success. Placing clear and appropriate goals, thinking positively, gathering support, monitoring and fruitful progress, and accepting relapses are all important whether you want to modify your demeanor.

Make certain that the behaviors you want to modify are specific, trackable, and achievable. Allow yourself some leeway in your goals. Don't set yourself up for disappointment by expecting perfection from yourself. When you demand perfection, you may forgo your goals when all you need to do is try again or adjust your aspirations. Be gentle with yourself during this time because change can be difficult.

  • Focusing on too many behavioral changes at once may be appealing, but it can be exhausting. You'll be able to track your progress and stay motivated if you focus on one or two small, specific, and attainable goals.
  • Remind yourself why you're trying to make these changes. Pat oneself on the back for all of your efforts. Any negative feelings that arise should be challenged or reframed.

Personality change may be difficult, and some broad traits may never be completely changed. However, experts suggest that there is stuff you can do to change specific aspects of behavior, the facets that exist beneath the threshold of those broad traits, that can lead to real altering the way you act, think, and function in your daily life.

Here are a few easy but powerful ways to declutter your head in no time:

Start prioritizing things: Prioritizing is an excellent approach to take control of your life. The first stage is to identify the things that are most important to you, your life goals, and your long-term objectives. Make a clear choice of priorities and make sure that your actions and decisions are consistent with your priorities. The next stage is to make an action plan to achieve your objectives, as well as to figure out how you'll divide your time to focus on each item on your list.

Permit yourself to let go of some things: It's imperative to let go of all the nasty thoughts and emotions that are weighing you down. Reduce stress, enhance self-esteem, and free up brain space by removing unneeded thoughts, fears, and concerns. Constantly review your thoughts and strive to replace negative parts with good ones.

Stop juggling multiple tasks: While there's nothing wrong with multitasking on occasion, doing so regularly reduces your attention span, raises stress, and adds to the clutter by making it tough for your brain to filter out irrelevant data. The study found that multitasking significantly reduces productivity and may impede cognitive control. The idea is to focus on one thing at a time as much as possible. Prepare a to-do list of everything you want to get done that day.

Take Some Time To Soothe: Finally, but certainly not least, take a break! To function properly, your brain needs to relax and recharge. So go out and try your hand in something that makes you happy. It doesn't matter if it's a long nap or a stroll around the park.

 I am Dr. Manjunath, a brain coach and an expert in brain science. I am here to assist you all in modifying your demeanor to what you need and you'll be surprised at the positive changes that occur. Visit to know more.

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